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Monday, November 24, 2014
Betwixt and Between
The anthropologist Arnold Van Gennep was one of the first
researchers in Western thought to study and identify Rites of Passage. A “Rite
of Passage” is an undertaking in which an individual or a group sets out to
change their status within their community and mark it with ceremony. Modern,
western society does not have the many rites of passage as in ancient times.
But we do mark important life events. For example, marriage, Bar Mitzvah, Baptism
even death is met with a rite.
Right of Passage could be summed up as an encounter with the
soul by temporarily displacing everyday consciousness. Van Gennep noted that
there are generally 3 stages in order as follows: Separation, Liminality, and
Incorporation. An individual leaves the comfort of an existing routine or
lifestyle (separation), steps into the liminal space which Van Gennep described
as “betwixt and between” (neither here nor there) and finally incorporation (Return).
Returning, the person or group brings wisdom or knowledge of one's inner gifts
to share for the betterment and sustenance of their community.
It is nearly three weeks since completing my 450 mile walk
across northern Spain to the city of Santiago. In retrospect, I realized that
for me my journey on the Camino de Santiago was very much a rite of passage. In
a conversation with a friend recently, in which she asked about altered states
of consciousness, I also recognized that I had been in an altered state while
walking. Up until that moment I had not thought of it as such.
I was in an altered state. Whether it was the pure
physicality of the daily routine of waking up, packing and walking all day every
day for days on end or the fact that I was following a path over 2000 years
old, established by people on a spiritual quest older than Christ is anybody’s
guess. It is a combination of the two and possibly even more factors that I
have not become aware of yet. For me, the return is still unfolding and will
continue to do so for some time.
In any case thinking back on those days and while it is still
fresh in my mind, I did feel as though I was walking between two worlds. Some
cultures believe that there are multiple worlds and realities that co-exist on
the linear plane of time. And that these
can be accessed through an altered state. My brother the scientist would
probably disagree. But I’m not sure science can prove or disprove transcendent
experience. There are people who also
believe that there are mystical portals where the veil between these worlds is
thin, very thin, where it is possible to cross a threshold from this world or
reality to another. There are entire libraries rich with literary examples.
For my part, I spent years walking and living outside in the
remote desert south west of the United States and this is where I first really
noticed this phenomenon. There were numerous small un-named canyons and sandy
drainages where I had walked time after time after time, over the course of
years. For some reason on one particular day, things just looked and felt
different. The landscape had not changed but I felt disoriented as if the world
had suddenly shifted at an angle of 20 degrees. Did this really happen? I don’t
eat funny mushrooms or smoke drugs. So, I can’t blame it on the use of mind
altering substances as a reason. Did I step into the space between? Is it true
in the sense of any reality being absolute? I can’t say. But it was accurate
for me at that time as I did not have another explanation.
I believe I was walking between the worlds then in the
desert. I felt like I was neither here nor there. Van Gennep called it “bewixt
and between”. What happened while walking the Way of Saint James felt similar
only this time there was no disorientation. I never felt lost, perplexed or
frightened.
I was walking “between the worlds”. So the question now is
what and where is that other world? Can it be defined as a 3 dimensional space,
a geographic location on a map? It is an
abstract reality in the unconscious mind, the one that connects the mystical to
humanity; faith to experience?
The next question is where did I arrive?
Thanks for reading
Tuesday, November 18, 2014
A Day In the Life of a Hospitalera on the Camino de Santiago.
La Parroquia San Juan Bautista. Granon, Rioja
Spain
September
1-15, 2014
I made a
commitment to find a way to serve other pilgrims on the very day I completed my
first pilgrimage to Santiago in November of 2012.
Returning to
the states I began putting together the pieces to make a service commitment a
reality. I was put in touch with several pilgrims’ organizations and finally
found hospitalera training to take place over a weekend last fall. The
facilitators and other trainees in attendance were incredible. This was the
final push I needed to put the wheels in motion. Once all the logistics came
together, the rest just evolved organically.
I really had
no idea what to expect when I arrived at the albergue to take up my post as a
volunteer. I decided to walk from San Jean Pied de Port in order to put myself
in the proper mindset. I allowed myself plenty of time because I didn’t want to
rush through any of this experience. It
was about 11 days of walking through the late summer sun.
Upon my
arrival which was 3 days early, I had a bad cold and had some serious pain in
my right foot. The three women from the Spanish city of Valencia who were the
hospitaleras when I arrived gave me a warm welcome and allowed me to rest up. All
the hospitaleros at the other parochial albergues, donativos and municipal
shelters I met along the way set fine examples as to how to welcome a pilgrim.
I speak Spanish fairly well and had found some of them to be quite funny with a
great sense of humor. But it was Pepe in Zabaldiki who, when he found out I was
on my way to my volunteer position in Granon clapped his hands together in a
show of exuberance and began to explain the inner journey of the Camino. That
would become very clear much later.
The village
of Granon is lovely. It has an agricultural based economy with a typical
communal lavadura, fuentes, and a plaza hosting a café bar, church and town
hall. Located in one of the verdant valleys of the province and autonomous
community of La Rioja, Spain. The albergue in Granon is very special. I did not
encounter anything like it anywhere on my own walk to Santiago. It is open 24/7
365 days a year and never turned anyone away. When I first met Father Jesus, I
was a little intimidated by his presence. He held a pilgrim’s mass every night
of the week except for Sundays when he performed a morning mass. Of course he
turned out to be one of the gentlest souls on the planet. His commitment to pilgrims was awe inspiring
and his lack of judgment toward others is what really struck me. I felt a
little awkward at times speaking with him because my Spanish seemed to ebb and
flow but he never wavered, he never laughed at me or poked fun of my Spanish.
Neither did the other two2 hospitaleros I worked with. Sergio was a young man
from Madrid and Antonio was a retired professor from Mexico. They spoke no
English but we communicated well laughed and laughed for two solid weeks. It
was the most fun you can have while scrubbing toilets and washing down shower
stalls.
We also
offered a communal meal every evening. We occasionally fed folks who were not
staying at the albergue itself. The kitchen was tiny. Our job was to supervise
the pilgrim’s while they prepared the evening cena. When I tell people this
they are incredulous, as they should be. BUT, it worked. As I said Granon is
exceptional. Remember the story of the fishes and the loaves? That sums it up. There
was always enough. However, when I first arrived the three current hospitaleras
were doing all the cooking. And a fine job they did. I thought that’s how it
worked. Then I discovered that neither Sergio nor Antonio knew anything about
kitchens and cooking. I have many years of experience in commercial kitchens
and thought I could handle cooking every night for 45+ pilgrims. By day 4 I was
cooked myself. Enter Marina, the volunteer supervisor from Burgos. She
straightened us out on a few things. She is the one who taught us to “trust the
process because it works”. I did not believe her but there was no alternative,
I could not continue cooking every night. She was so right. Pilgrims were more
than happy to offer to help. We even had a few professional chefs who stepped
up to direct the kitchen for the evening.
After that we all fell into a pleasant but rigorous routine. That
routine included relaxing, exploring Granon and even a few field trips with
Father Jesus. Did I mention cleaning the albergue every day from top to bottom?
Here is what a typical day looked like:
We rotated a
shift of two to prepare the breakfast at 6:00 AM. The other hospitalero would
sleep in. And once the last pilgrims were out the door, we went back to sleep
for an hour or two and soaked up the quiet. The three of us upon awakening ate
a quick breakfast with some coffee and set to the task of cleaning the albergue.
There were no bunks or actual beds in Granon. Pilgrims slept on mats on the
floor of either the main sleeping room or in the overflow which also happened
to be the newer chapel of the church. This chapel doubled as the winter
quarters for the masses. Father Jesus said if and when those two spaces were
full, pilgrims could sleep inside the church. I never saw that but we did sometimes
have 60+ pilgrims.
After the
mats were stacked up we cleaned the floors with a solution of both water and
vinegar or a solution of bleach and water.
We also wiped down the mats about every 3 days with a solution of
vinegar and water. The floors were tile and did not allow for bugs to hide.
Although we also had a pressurized steam cleaner in the event of bed bugs
showing up. Because of this problem in the past, Granon did NOT have blankets
or sheets to offer pilgrims. We cleaned the bathrooms, washed all the kitchen
towels, straightened the place up, separated the trash and cleaned the kitchen.
After a short time, it became clear that some of us had preferences. By
unspoken agreement, Antonio took it up to deep clean the kitchen every day and
wash all the kitchen towels and cleaning rags; I was particular about the
ladies bathroom and the auxiliary WC on the first floor and Sergio liked
keeping the choir in order. It worked very well this way…
After the
place was together, we all went to the local bar and had a coffee or a
croissant and just relaxed in the morning sun. After our little break of coffee
and chats with locals (of which there were about 200 in residence in Granon),
we went back and waited. When pilgrims came in up the narrow winding staircase
of the bell tower, we had them sign in, oriented them to showers, sleeping and
laundry (most of what pilgrims do after walking) and pointed to the donativo
box on the table in the entry. Again, here is where Granon was truly special. This
albergue was 100 % dependent on pilgrim donations. Our donativo box was a
little wooden chest that was open and on the inside of the lid was printed in
several languages: Donativo-Put in what you have, Take out what you need. We
never lacked for funds to buy groceries and wine and keep the place stocked.
The main
floor was both a living room and a dining room. Pilgrims could sit by the open
windows, eat their lunch, play our guitar, chat with each other and us and just
relax. The albergue opened on to a little public plaza or garden with plenty of
shade and benches, all in all a very pleasant place to while away the
afternoon. I often sat there for an hour or so myself playing my ukulele during
the hot Spanish siesta.
At about
6:00 in the evening we would begin to facilitate the pilgrims organizing
themselves into a food prep team. More often than not, one pilgrim would step
up to delegate to others what needed to be prepped and so on. We were able to
use the big wood heated bread oven at the local bakery down the street from
roasting large pans of vegetables or what have you. The catch was, pilgrims had
to sing or Susanna to owner in order to claim the night’s dinner from the oven.
This led to much hilarity and general mayhem in the street around the time
dinner was to be served.
After the
supper was cleared and the dining room put back in order, we held a candlelight
meditation in the choir. Pilgrims were invited to offer up prayers,
thanksgivings, and petitions or just speak their hearts and minds. It was a
great honor to be a witness to all the pilgrims who shared their fears, their
pain, joys, sorrows, regrets, gratitude and prayers. In my time as hospitalera
I met no fewer than 400 pilgrims. I began keeping a list of the countries that
were represented. By the time I left Granon I had about 35 countries on that
list. By the time I had reached Santiago, Muxia and Finisterre, it had grown to
53.
After the pilgrim’s
mediation, it was basically lights out for the pilgrims. Of course they were
free to sit outside in the cool of the evening or venture into the town plaza
to the bar. As hospitaleros, we set to the task of preparing for breakfast. We
set the tables and made sure we had everything necessary to serve a typical
Spanish breakfast, coffee, tea, bread, butter and jam. And then we retired for
the evening.
The albergue
was set up in such a way that it practically ran itself. On several occasions,
were able to walk out to the nearby hermitage of Carrasquedo. A little church
about 2 kilometers out of town located in what was known as the Bosque Celtico
or Celtic Wood. It was a nice walk and there was a park, restaurant and youth
hostel there. On 2 occasions Father Jesus took the 3 of us on field trips to
museum in Canas, a retired Cistercian Monastery and to Valvonera, a living Benedictine
Monastery in the mountains outside Logrono.
Aside from
keeping track of donations, cleaning and keeping the albergue clean, much of
what we did was to welcome pilgrims and help them feel safe and protected. This
is where that inner journey starts to show up. In retrospect, I think that
pilgrims need more than shelter and a hot meal. And being a pilgrim myself I
found this to be true at times. I think pilgrims (although we may not be
consciously aware of it) also need to know that we will be OK. That our needs
will be met and we will not experience some life threatening incident. Even by today’s
standards in civilized society and a world mostly free of highway robbers and
bandits for some people breaking from the routine they have held for years is absolutely
terrifying. My experience has taught that the “not knowing”, the
unpredictability of weather and conditions, the dynamic nature of our own human
experience can lead to insecurity. Serving as hospitalera was as challenging as
being a pilgrim. For me personally, I needed to lean into the spirituality I
was hoping to deepen. I needed to stretch and dig deep to uphold pilgrims when
they were coming apart. The inner journey of service put me as in touch with my
God as walking into the unknown every day. I am grateful for having had the
privilege of serving in this way.
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Going Home
I've been living out of backpacks and duffel bags for about 4 years. |
I have been on a pilgrimage in Spain and writing in this blog would have been a great distraction. I'll get more into that topic later.
Tomorrow, I leave Europe and head "home".
Many of the people I meet ask me where I'm "from" . I make up some story or other about growing up on the east coast of America and living the last 20 years or so out in the "wild, wild west". Then they ask me where "home" is and truth be told, it renders me speechless. I don't have an answer. I don't have a home. Like most of what I learn about my life, it is through the process of elimination the things that are NOT true for me... Maybe that's a bass-ackwards way of looking at things but that's how it is. So, I am learning where home is not. There is a quote by Robyn Davidson in her book Tracks, “And there are new kinds of nomads, not people who are at home everywhere, but who are at home nowhere. I was one of them ”.
Right now it is true that I am most at home nowhere.
One of the most important lessons I learned on this
pilgrimage, really took to heart and am working to integrate is that I can hold two contradictory ideas with compassion.
For example, while walking all day everyday, I found myself wanting to be in the company of other walkers while at the same time wanting the walkers who were walking with me to shut up and go away. Eventually, I found myself feeling very angry. And feeling angry just made it worse. Then a I met another pilgrim and we chatted briefly about this very thing one night in a tiny village over a soda while the rain outside came down in buckets. He reminded me that one of Buddhas guiding principles was that in our humanness, we can want two opposing things at the same time and not suffer. We have all heard the cliche, "Pain is a part of life, suffering is optional". He reminded me that I can hold two contradictory ideas AND have compassion. What a relief!
So as I fly out of Amsterdam tomorrow I'll be noticing what it's like to want to live nowhere while wanting a home somewhere.
Thanks for reading.